My name is Brianl and I can tell you how the next ten years of your life is going to turn out. Write this down! "opportunity mixed with difficulty". I am about as real and genuine as they get. I'm not the type of person who tries to see what I can get from, you but more the type that will try and help you out. If you are smart than you know that happiness is created by helping others and taking control of your own life. Angry people wouldn't be angry if they were putting positive effort into someones life. There is no need for a huge ego, its a sign of insecurities.
Ambition and determination was implemented into me when I was really young. I think It began with tennis. I won everything there was to win. There is nothing that I desire that I can not obtain! All it takes is the time put into it. Create a sense of urgency with structured organization of definiteness of plan and that's the means of how you get what you want.
Lately I have just been busy and haven't been in the social nightlife. I have read more books about personal empowerment in the past 10 months than one could read in 4 years of college. I went back to school and I have my own full service travel agency which is taking off hard right now. I teach tennis four hours in the morning every day of the week except Sundays at a country club where I am the assistant head pro. I am create Internet and SEO marketing company as well with my best friend Jules recently. i am also involved in 2 business projects with a top 500 internet marketer in the world.
I believe I am a romantic at heart and I am proud to say so. Lots of guys don't like to admit that which means they are probably struggling with some sort of identity problem. That must be exhausting to try and put up a front because they want the world to portray you in an image of mr. macho "cool". I don't worship the "God of Cool" and the "God of Hot". I worship the God they speak of in Church on Sunday mornings.
Success is not something you pursue, its something you attract by the person you become. Success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines practiced every day. Your personal philosophy is the greatest determining factor on how your life works out. Your philosophy determines whether you will go for the disciplines or continue the errors. We have 2 choices which are to make a living and to design a life. Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present. Reasons make the difference on how your life works out. If you care at all you'll get some results, but if you care enough you'll get incredible results. Your income is determined primarily by your philosophy. Time is more valuable than money. You can get more money but you can't get time. Don't waste time waiting for inspiration, begin and inspiration will find you. Don't wish it were easier, wish you were better. Learn how to hide your needs and show your skills. The same wind blown on us all, the wind money, the wind of opportunity, the wind of change, so how are you going to set your sail. We are affected by 5 things, environment (political and social), by events, but what we know, by our results, by our dreams: what are you in control of. The major value of life is not what you get, but by what you become. Beware of what you become in pursuit of what you want. People view you on how you view yourself. What you think about is what you become. Learn how to be happy with what you have while you pursue all that you want. Don't help people who need it, help people who deserve it.Giving is better than receiving because giving starts the receiving process. Don't bring your need to the marketplace, bring your skill. If you don't feel well, tell your doctor, but not the marketplace. If you need money, go to the bank, but not the marketplace. A good objective of leadership is to help those who are doing poorly to do well and to help those who are doing well to do even better. Give so much time to the improvement of yourself, that you don't have time to criticize others. Affirmation without discipline is the beginning of delusion. Asking is the beginning of receiving. Make sure you don't go to the ocean with a teaspoon. At least take a bucket so the kids won't laugh at you. Don't belittle someone, be BIG. Commit yourself to something bigger than yourself. Let others lead small lives, let others argue over small things, let others cry over small hurts, lets others leave their future in someones hands, but not you. If you don't design your own life plan, chances are you'll fall into someone else's plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not very much. Either you run the day or the day runs you. Never chase a lie, it will run itself to death. Chase your fears and run towards them, on the other side of your fears live your greatest life. Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment. If you don't have a list of goals, your bank account can be guessed within a few hundred dollars. Only 3% of America has a list of written goals and the other 97% works for the 3%. Goals pull you through the rough times and organize your life. Dreams and goals can become magnets. Never laugh at anyone's dream, at least they dream. The only pull in life that matters is the pull of the future. If you are not willing to risk the unusual, you will have to settle for the ordinary. Ideas can be life changing. Sometimes all you need to do is open the door is just one more good idea. Never kill an idea. How long should you try? Until! For every disciplines effort there is a mutual reward. Think like a person of action, act like a person of thought. Learning is beginning of wealth. Learning is the beginning of health. Learning is the beginning of spirituality. Searching and learning is where the miracle process all begins. Don't just read the easy stuff. You may be entertained by it, but you will never grow from it. A novel is never anything, but a philosophy put into images. Better understated than overstated. Let people be surprised that it was more than you promised and easier than you said. The goal of effective communication should be for the listener to say "me to" instead of "so what". Effective communication is 20% what you know and 80% how you feel about what you know. Combine your knowledge. None of us is smarter than all of us. Replace the word "I" with the word "we". Never mistake knowledge for wisdom. Give whatever you are doing and whoever you are with the gift of your attention. Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune. If someone is going down the wrong road, he doesn't need motivation to speed him up. What he needs is education to turn him around. Pursue character before prosperity. Character isn't something you were born with and can't change, like your fingerprints. It's something you weren't born with and must take responsibility for forming. Make promises sparingly, and keep them faithfully. Develop a tolerance for failure. Failure is not a single, cataclysmic event. You don't fail overnight. Failure is simply a few errors of judgment repeated every day. Create an atmosphere for forgiveness. Start an epidemic of enthusiasm. Develop the ability to find the ability in others. It's priceless. Inspire someone to be the best they can be. Act as if what you do makes a difference. Be an exception not the exemption and don't forget to welcome greatness as it lives all around you.
FAITH is the head chemist of the mind. When FAITH is blended with the vibration of thought, the subconscious mind instantly picks up the vibration, translates it into its spiritual equivalent, and transmits it to Infinite Intelligence, as in the case of prayer. The emotions of FAITH, LOVE, and SEX are the most powerful of all the major positive emotions. When the three are blended, they have the effect of "coloring" the vibration of thought in such a way that it instantly reaches the subconscious mind, where it is changed into its spiritual equivalent, the only form that induces a response from Infinite Intelligence.
Love and faith are psychic; related to the spiritual side of man. Sex is purely biological, and related only to the physical. The mixing, or blending, of these three emotions has the effect of opening a direct line of communication between the finite, thinking mind of man, and Infinite Intelligence. Faith is a state of mind, which you may develop at will, because it is a state of mind which develops voluntarily, through application and use of auto suggestion. Repetition of affirmation of orders to your subconscious mind is the only known method of voluntary development of the emotion of faith.
The method by which one develops FAITH, where it does not already exist, is extremely difficult to describe, almost as difficult, in fact, as it would be to describe the color of red to a blind man who has never seen color, and has nothing with which to compare what you describe to him. Faith is a state of mind, which you may develop at will, because it is a state of mind which develops voluntarily, through application and use of these principles. Repetition of affirmation of orders to your subconscious mind using the principal of auto suggestion is the only known method of voluntary development of the emotion of faith.
Behavioral confidence is the belief in ability to take action. It is the belief in ability to follow through with your actions and to be consistent. It is the belief in ability to push through obstacles. And it is the belief in the ability to ask for help. Break down your big goals in small steps and taking them one after another! Seek successful people and learn from them! Break down a list of people who you can go to for help and support. If its only a handful, you are a lucky person.
Emotional confidence is the belief and ability to know your own feelings. It is the belief in your ability to express your own feelings, to get what is inside out. It is the belief in the ability to connect with other human beings in a loving and meaningful way. It is the belief in the ability to find love, understanding, and compassion in all situations, especially difficult ones. And it is the belief in the ability to know what you have to offer others as a human being is valuable. Identify first then resolve your feelings. If you know your feeling something uncomfortable. Ask yourself "What is it"? It needs to be resolve and ask for help if you don't know what to do. Learn how to express your feeling and emotions to others! Face the issues immediately. Create opportunities for connection with other people. Do not isolate! The more you are around quality people the more confidence will be made. Remember Emotional confidence is something only you can develop on the inside. The more you connect with the heart on what you feel, the more confident you will be, and the more powerful you will be to relate to others.
Spiritual Confidence is the belief that the Universe is a constantly evolving mystery, and that there is a universal flow towards good. It is the belief in the order of Universe-that it makes sense. Observing the cycles of nature and the mechanics of creation. It is the belief in yourself as a miraculous expression of God, Spirit, and Higher Intelligence. Seek out evidence that the Universe operates in an orderly positive fashion. Blessings in disguise that lead you into a positive direction. Spend time out doors in Nature and observe what you see. You will realize that there is a magnificent unlimited intelligence that is responsible for all of this. Look for everyday miracles of evidence that you are loved. If the sun rises, the bird sings to you, or a child smiles at you. Look for evidence that shows your being watched over.
You know that you have everything you need inside you right now. Your lack of self-confidence is simply an illusion. Your are a magnificent, perfect child of the Universe and you are powerful beyond measure. The more you love yourself and enjoy this life, the more you honor which created you. The more you manifest your true beauty and express your unique gift, the more the Universe will rejoice. This is why you are here, to be an extraordinarily outrageous "You" as possible.
How I handle my challenges shows my strength in character. To overcome pain you have to feel life. Trusting in the power of God is key. Life should be looked at as an adventure and as a celebration. The good times go to my pocket and the bad times go to my heart and soul. Un-realists see that good times will last forever. By all means ride the title wave of good times, but know that the wave eventually comes to shore. No matter how bad, no defeats are permanent. Successful people find the positive in a negative situation. No condition is permanent and if you believe in God even death is not a permanent condition.
Smart people sometimes have difficulties solving their problems because they feel that if they can't solve their problems, then there is no way. You have to tell yourself that you are going to make it no matter what. Life is not easy even for the people who make it look easy. Failure is simply a temporary condition. I feel that I am greater than any of my circumstances and any thing that could ever happen to me. I have chosen to enter the flow of life and take it on. I have been so low before that down looked like up to me. Things may happen around me, things may happen to me, but the only thing that counts are the things in me.
I no longer drown in self-defeating thoughts because I get real with myself and ask what is it that I'm not willing to handle. Life is a constant cycle of change and conflict plays a big part especially in bad times. Awareness is my best weapon. It takes courage to resist. People will urge you to do the wrong things. It takes courage to not bind into negative situations. Victories make me, me and those lead me to a greater stride for to seek. When I started to take control of my life it started to respond to what I have been asking to get out of it.
There is a reason for me being here. When I stay focused on my goals things begin to open up for me and allow me to pull my talents out. I look at failure now as simply part of a process if it occurs, but it is not the end of the road. Sometimes I forget what I have over come. I have to remember. Tapping in to my past and pulling out exhibitions of my strength keeps me strong. It is not the distance you go, its the getting up a end go that matters. That is the hard part for a lot of people because people are lazy and want everything given to them. Believing in yourself requires knowing you have value so that you do not have to go running around in life constantly being on top of things. That is the faith and hope of believing in you.
Those who have great power have a greater responsibility to cater to the best in us. I like my pockets filled to the top with money. Who doesn't like that feeling? I tell you that I have no desire in my heart to go to the bottom of the garbage dump to get it. You have to take risks and challenges in life in order to live fully. That requires sacrifice. Don't go to where the path may lead but go to where there is no path at all. In spite of all the legs a caterpillar has, it cannot move fast enough to fly. It has to give up those legs in order to fly. If you stick to what is comfortable and secure you may regret not testing your talents against the world. If you ask yourself if they way things are going right now going to put you in the position you want to be in 5 years from now? That is a powerful enough statement to pay attention to, to reorganize your priorities. If you keep knocking on the door of opportunity long enough, somebody is going to answer.
We are conditioned to learn in a box in America, the television and the computer. Have we forgot about books? So you will read this in a box and we will keep it traditional and keep in mind from the beginning that I think America is the most wonderful place in the world that is the complete land of opportunity! These are some problem I see that are always swept under the rug for some reason so I'm addressing them in a sense that has never been put together quite like this before.
I think that mankind is making himself less and less relevant through his creations. Technology takes us further and further away from the individual. Cell phones, tape recorders, VCRs, laptops - the more that we create the less we think for ourselves, and eventually these things will be thinking for us. We'll disappear eventually. Lets talk about blame today.
People want to blame music and movies but have we forgot about free will and personal responsibility? When I grew up music was the escape. It had no judgments. Put on a record and it won't yell at you for dressing different.
Violence and gun control the two things we were going to talk about in the upcoming election before the Columbine shooting, the day America dropped more bombs on Kosovo than any other time during that war. Nobody said, "Maybe the president had an influence on this violent behavior" because that's the way media wants to take it and spin it and turn it into fear. Now you are watching television and being pumped full of fear. There are floods, there's AIDS, there's murder, there's war, and there's famine. Cut to commercial and buy the Acura, Colgate if you have bad breath, then they aren't going to talk to you. Buy the pimple cream or the girl is not going to fuck you. It's this campaign of fear and consumption. It's this whole thing where if media keeps you afraid then we will consume. This is how I see things and always have. I stopped watching television seven years ago and if I do it's either the History Channel or movies.
If you think about the crucifix, the greatest mass-market merchandise in the world, but that's something we never talk about that on the news. Nobody cares when an adult commits violence. Only a kid, and we ask the reason why? When we asked why about Oswald. Our answer, "well he's a communist". Tim Mcvey, "well because he's crazy". Bill Clinton killing foreigners, "well he's the president, that's American way".
We are in a state of chaos in this era. White teens, that seems to be the enigma now. Why are they mad? They are white, middle class, spoiled. What are they mad about and committing crimes for? Is it because they think America is a lie, or is it because we make them feel like they aren't good enough growing up until reality sets in? They are never good enough for the scholarship, the hot girl, the car, or even being famous for 15 minutes. Is it the 1st race in kindergarten, where moms are yelling "get the white ribbon, get the white ribbon"? I may have got the yellow ribbon. Is it in high school where moms and dads' yelling "kill em kill em" during the football games? Wow ancient Rome now re-appears. Moms and kids they all want blood. This is nothing new.
What struck me that has been avoided and ignored because people always want to point the finger at someone is the gladiator. The sports hero is the icon more than the president, Jesus or God now a day. He's on the box of Wheaties or in the McDonald's ad or in the movies. What does that say to kids? That physical activity is more important than knowledge and education? That it's better to be known for who you are on the outside rather than on the inside? Is that encouraging America to be not only more violent but dumber at the same time? Don't get me wrong I love sports. I was ranked number 1 in America in tennis all the way through juniors. Are we going backwards on the evolution charts? The creation has taken it away and you can't even find the evolutionary chart anymore.
Everyone knows that when growing up that jocks ruled the school. You look at a movie like the Outsiders, Disturbing Behavior, or Heathers. The nerds, the thinkers, the daydreamers, the throw a way's, the quiet students who keep to themselves. These are the beaten! These are this kids that cannot drink out of the water fountain today. I don't see anyone standing up for his or her civil rights. So are we surprised why they are mad or dead? Why the violence? I think American society has made them this way. What did you expect?
Look at Woodstock. Its supposed to be love and hippies and good times celebrating America and freedom. Now they have riots, fires and rape. This phenomenon is related to sports I think. I'm sure it started when rap and rock started to mix and created this oxymoron called rock rap or jock rock. It's like people come to a party that they don't understand, but they are just smart enough to know that they are the stupidest people there, so that makes them mad. I think that's what the recent Woodstock was about. You had these white football kids in jerseys trying to make rock and roll a sport by raping girls and beating each other up. Why is this happening? Well we say it's the music, it's the music.
Part of mans evolution has always been to compete. I think a lot of parents push drive in their kids particularly through sports and try to force them to meet the goals that they attempted, but failed in their youth. You got OJ Simpson. He can't be guilty he's an American hero. We were about to put his face on the 3-dollar bill. Ray Caruth an NFL receiver charged with murdering his pregnant girlfriend. Did they ask why he did it? No one cares why. Ray Lewis an NFL line backer charged with a double homicide in Atlanta on super bowl Sunday, which happens to be the most violent day of the year, with the most expensive commercial time. He's out on bail. Yet you have Charles Manson sitting in prison for conspiracy murders sentenced to death and you have these other guys walking the streets because they're "the sports hero".
A few years ago this teenage punk kid was run down in a car by a white jock and his girlfriend in his dads Cadillac. I remember watching it in a documentary and hearing the jocks girlfriend in court on the witness stand stating that her boyfriend said "I'm a ninja in my Cadi" before committing the crime. This teenage punk died because he looked different. He was run down by a drunken piece of shit that hated him and always picked on him. It's a situation where you've got 6 kids who have got their noses pierced and odd haircuts, and you have got 30 jocks who are the popular kids at school and they picking on them calling them fags, punks, or whatever. So this guy kills this kid, and is clearly guilty but now guess where he is now? He's in college. The jury felt the puck rocker deserved to die because he looked the way he did. Not only was he killed, but in the trial they killed him again because they criticized his lifestyle. He didn't wear a Tommy Hillfiger shirt and kaki pants. And then the killer was even applauded at graduation because he was a football star and he never spent a day in prison. So whom do we blame?
Everybody wants to say "there's too much violence". Did anyone forget about the Civil War, The Bible, or Shakespeare? You know violence isn't brand new. I don't even think seeing violence is the problem. I think seeing violence, as a solution to solve a problem is what is sending a bad message to kids growing up. Even going back to a western film, the hero kills the villain and saves the day and sweeps the woman off her feet at the end. Children grew up in World War II and they learned that total violence is the answer to problem, even against bad people, and that's where I think a dying culture in America began. These kids grow up and are learning this and preach, "we won the war". "But dam that Hitler, genocide, and the terrible things he did". "We dropped the bomb but that's different. We are Americans and we believe in god".
That's where we create what I like to call the god band-aid. That's when you got a problem you stick the god band-aid on. For instance "someone just killed my daughter, but its ok she's with god now." Or you killed someone, "but it's ok because I believe in god now." All the other people with the God band-aids see that and think, "oh he's with God he's ok lets let him go."
Bad parents make bad kids! That's why I ask the question is adult entertainment killing our children or is killing our children entertaining adults? That's the question we have to ask ourselves today, and you have to ask yourself that with the hungry cameras at the crime scene, at the funeral, or at the plane crash. Interviewing the victims, or watching the guy blow his brains out on the L.A. freeway.
I stated earlier, we are conditioned to learn in a box so here's the news for you. We are the box. We are a copy staring at a copy. Kind of like the guy on Jerry Springer who watches the monitor to see if he can see himself and that becomes a loop because you see yourself again, again, and again. Eventually it's a Xerox that's so degenerated we don't know which came first. That's where we are at and that's what I'm going to leave you with.
Ideal match description:
My soul mate possesses my better half.. She is the brightest star my sky. She is the reason why I work hard today and tomorrow and so that one day I can give it all to her so she never has to worry about lack of Earthly possessions. Together we lay our shortcomings on the table for one another to see with nothing to hide, but only to help make them better for each other to understand. I see a vision of her in my dreams which consists of dark hair, olive skin and eyes that glow in many shades of color. God took time on her looks but much more time on her heart and soul. She is not perfect, but an inch away from it in every aspect in my eyes. She watches over me as my protector. She is my protector. She possesses everything inside of her that I am lacking but is willing to teach me to become a stronger half. I possess everything inside my heart and soul that she is seeking and I am willing to teach her my character because she is willing and wanting to learn. We keep it balanced on both ends of the relationship scale giving 100% effort towards each other. Nothing less but the best for each other. She possesses all the keys to my feelings and the key to my heart vise versa and we will never throw them away. She will catch me if I’m falling and I will lift her up to the sky. She helps me release any pain from the past and constantly reminds me to forgive others for their wrong doings but never forget so I am aware. She doesn’t ask for much except for a bunch of wonderful memories to occupy her mind with when we are away from each other. Her kiss is softer than a feather and tastes like valentines. Her smell gives me goose bumps that raise the hair on the back of my neck. If we get into an argument we both say that we are sorry when it is over. She calms my stress when I’m stressed. I give her back rubs with no intentions of making love. If she falls asleep I put a blanket over her and kiss her forehead and I smile at her with love. I watch her for a brief period when she sleeps thinking to myslef how lucky I am to have her. I surprise her when she comes home with a trail of rose pedals leading to a candle lit bath filed with rose pedals on top of the water. I leave her love notes in the most unique places such as the freezer, her shoe, the car glove box, her make up kit, or in her jewelery box etc. I do sneaky little things that are a sign of my affection like noting the things she likes while window shopping in the mall, then going back the next day to buy it for her. We do goofy things together like start a pillow fight or start a finger painting that ends up in a messy war with each other. We do recreational spontaneous things like going to the driving range even though we give golf a bad name and compliment each other on our good shots and swings. I constantly find new way and tactics to keep that special spark and fire alive between us because that is something I never want to burn out. I realize that I am blessed when I have lost something that is most dear to me, but only then I am embraced by the one most dear to me. I call her up out of the blue just to say "I love you". Together we see the world through the same eyes, different than anyone else’s view point, because we are one unique soul. Her, God, and I equal two. She tells me she loves me and I tell her "I know". She tells me she loves me and I tell her "I love you more". She tells me I am great and I tell her she is the greatest. Looks don’t matter and are not the main focus, because I will find her beautiful inside and out no matter what. Her security to me is more powerful than a thousand guns, a thousand knives and a thousand swords. I am not looking for her because God will put her in my life when the time is right for the both of us. When I look into her eyes they are they keys to her soul that produce more comfort than the softest pillow when I gaze upon them. Our humor feeds off one another and the laughter never ends until our cheeks hurt and abs burn. We constantly see what we can do for one other, looking to remember everything, but not looking for what we can get out of each other. The small things matter because they add up to paint a huge picture of character. For instance I check the tires on her car to and make sure everything is running smoothly or polish her shoes in a special occasion. We do simple silly goofy things like buying a half gallon of our favorite ice cream and taking it to a beautiful park, throwing down a blanket, and eating the eintire thing. Our focus is on God and Jesus because they are the ultimate teachers of servant hood. Our child sees her as God because mother is God through the eyes of a child. She is the only physical part of fulfillment I need and God and faith is the rest. If it were my last day on Earth there would be no need to say good-bye because she will always be with me and I will see her on the other side!
My languages skills:
English: I am advanced in every skill Spanish: I can read and write with a dictionary but can't speak