My Dearest Ladies: Greetings to you each. I do appreciate your letters and responses. Your variations are as different as the colors of the rainbow. Some are very lonely and desire and deserve one good man. Many of you are divorced and have had to deal with much abuse. Why so many Russian/Ukranian Men get addicted to Drink, I am not sure, but it sure destroys relationships and hurts families leading to divorce. My heart hurts for the Widows who have lost their men due to disease, accident, age, crime, etc. And then there are the never marrieds before. All I can tell you is...Keep trying...Seek and Ye will find, knock and the door will be opened,ask and it shall be given you...I am still seeking. I am a good man even at 58 and the father of 3 grown adult kids..maybe even a grandpa in the next year. And I am looking now for a mate in her 30-50s to join me. I too miss my mate. I had an excellent for 8 years till she blew up within emotionally and lead our family down a terrible path since 1992. I still hung on as DAD. But my story is just one of many sadd stories. I know 3 things...Life is not Fair #1. People tend to be Selfish #2. and God is Still Good 24/7. That last fact keeps me going and believing that maybe...just maybe one of you will find me...and the others of you will find your right man...but it is also being the right person and giving up our selfishness...Not easy for many. A book called Love and Addiction may be helpful to many of you. I wish each of you well....so now...Read On...Seek,Knock...and Ask. And it may not hurt to put a pair of boxers on the end of your bed when you pray...LOL..LOL. Blessings. Bob from Western Iowa.=rdm
Most people want to enjoy life, but few really do. They have hangups, hurts, and habits that tend to push away sometimes those they would love most to be close. I am no different. I do believe God has a preferred will for each of us, but with the right attitude towards each other, I do believe we could make life good just by following the Bible in how to treat one another...with love, and kindness, respect, and decency..and civility. With warmth, graciousness, thinking of the other first before we open our big mouths. And everyone who has enjoyed God's Design for man and woman to be intimate mentally, physically and spiritually...that is the issue. To be compatible with each other so much as it depends on me. What happens then really depends on doing unto others as you would like to be treated. I do not know of a woman who likes to be abused, cursed at, beat, hit, sexually misused, especially sexually abused...etc. And too many of you have written me of such horrid sad and lonely tales. I believe I could run a huge hotel full of you kind and decent ladies coming in boatloads to the USA just to find the kind of kindness, warmth, decency and respect you so deeply inwardly crave and long for. And I do not blame you. I have been alone for 24 years as a thrown away husband, and mate due to severe abuse of my spouse by another man when she was a child. I have stayed single for my kids and loved them and been there for them. If that interests you in terms of the type of man I am....well, contact me. I am still rugged and good looking, a little fluffier in the middle than I desire...but it is time to get on with life...and pour out my life helping others like you. God Bless...and do take care. Love, Bob from Western Iowa...USA::: GENERAL NOTE:I want to wish each of you a Safe 2016 of finding your true soul mate and happiness. I want to encourage you to make a video book of your current life, your mom and dad, home, bedroom, work place if allowed, favorite dishes, work out activities, outfits you love to wear, places you like to go, etc. If you have dogs, cats, horses, etc...I want to know. It may be tough to get your pooch, kitty, or Mr. Ed the Horse over here...so get me over there...just don't let PUTIN get me or the KGB...and I will be your chauffeur, friend, confidante, and escort. Sound like fun...why not. Life is short. I can do noble things like teach, manage, coach, train.....but I like traveling in a motor coach. If extremely rich, bring Plastic. If not...be willing to work our way across the world...PS. I hate snakes. OK..have a good day. I have a list of residences which you can always choose from...I love my country place at Box 39 in a town called Castana in the state of Iowa nestled in the Loess Hills. It is wild there...and my workshop in the town of Onawa nestled in a bungalow setting on the 708 9th street corner. I also have my work setting at Guntren Trucking on a Highway 75 North in a city called Sioux City Iowa. If you should decide to make a video of your life, just remember...be yourself...from swimming attire, to sleep atire, to casual, to dressup, whatever you decide...just take a video tape, put a piece of scotch tape over the back side box on the left rear...put in VCR recorder...and get a friend to tape your life. A picture is worth a thousand words...and you can tell all about your life. I am more than willing to ask permission to receive such information and am willing to pay. I just have no idea how to do it. Well...God Bless...and Best Wishes for a Happy 2015. Take care. -rdm PSPS..now back to the intent of this profile.....
So many of you are so beautiful in your outward appearance...and that is important to too many men...but more importantly is the quiet spirit and gentle heart of a trustworthy woman..a Godly Woman..who is fun spirited and winsome,Gentle and lovely because of what she has in her heart, but more importantly,whom she knows...the God of Christmas and His Son...and His Spirit. Her Husband of the Future will be very Blessed. I wish you each a Very Blessed New Year..Silent Night,Holy Night.-From Bob of Western Iowa.-rdm
I long to sing this song on my guitar to my beloved at our private wedding in a garden...or small church. I discovered this song while working Construction in Rake, Iowa in 1978.
In God's perfect time, He gave her to me, the one that I love, she's set apart for me..and I know that I Love Her..till Eternity.
She's worth more than Jewels, Her quiet spirit divine. She fears the Lord, and I m so thankful she's mine. Softly she says she loves me...with a love that's divine.
I pray I will be...the husband she needs. To love in a way. Christ gave his love for me. To give up my life..so one in Jesus We'll Be.
And we praise you Lord....for Calvary.
May our union...bring Glory...to thee. And we praise you Lord...for Calvary.
May our union bring glory to thee.
I meant that on August 17, 1985...but was thrown away on August 1, 1992...but I will mean it again..should God bless me with the right woman in my life...and I in hers....should he decide to ....before I die here on this earth...and that may not be too far away if I do not find my love soon. -Bob from Western Iowa.=USA.rdm
It is not only appearing right..but compatibility and being the right person for the other person. Men and women are very different from each other..and it is in the giving of and to each other that makes the difference. God Bless.
I have been in search of my soul mate and continue. I am educated kind and decent gentleman that has been thru a very difficult scenario with a messed up woman..due to an abusive past. I seek a competent kind caring christian soulmate who loves God first, her man second, and her family third..in that order. I am well educated, hard working, somewhat attractive, and very romantic. I am talented in many areas and seek a good match in compatibility. Only serious mid thirties to late 40s need apply. It is time to get serious here. My youngest graduates in 6 months..and we need to put a life together for the remainder of time on this planet. God Bless, God Speed, and May God's Force Truly Be With You. Rdm.-Bob from Western Iowa.
So many of you are beautiful in body..but most to God...is the heart and your spirit. I long to bless many with the song above...Our Song. I believe it is the desire of most women...just to be loved, accepted, and cared for by her man. Her man desires to be Honored and respected...nothing more...but nothing less. All those who have lead a life of sexual promiscuity...as Jesus said to the woman caught in adultry..go and sin no more. Intimacy is created by god...and he pleasures in it....knowing that it is in the confines of a loving committed monogomaus relationship. I need just one woman...and cannot seem to find her...but I am still hopeful. I am getting closer regarding timing..etc. May God Bless You All in the Ukraine as you read and long for the spouses desires shared in the song...Our Song.-rdm
To All of You Who Take the Time To Write: I have changed my occupation from Education where I am home most of the time, to Transportation, where I am gone weeks at a time. Its been that way since 2002. BUTT I am getting weary of the Road Alone. My kids are in college, I live alone, I miss my spouse, and God himself said, It is not good that Man be alone. I want someone to grow old with, but yet celebrate the life we have together until we leave this life. My ex cared nothing about encouraging her husband and threw him away. I am too good of a man, even with my issues...and we all have issues...to work with and work thru. I miss my wife...and I am sure that is why you are here. Don't give up on Love. It is what makes this life worth the living. Find your soulmate and keep on Keeping On. One day...you will be glad you did. God Bless. Love, Bob.
I just wanted here at the first of October 2013 to write to all of you nice people....LONELINESS...I read it over and over and over. People are so Lonely and feel alone..not loved, not cared for, no one to go home to at nite, crying themselves to sleep. There was a song in the 70s..This is for all the Lonely People...Thinking that life has passed them by. Don't give until you've captured the silvercup...You never know until you try...well Im on my way..yes I am back to stay...yes I am on my way back home....This is for all the lonely people, thinking that love has left them dry, don't give up until you capture the silver cup...you never know until you try. THIS WAS A VERY POPULAR SONG in America all thru the 70s and 80s..by the group America..and still is on the oldies channel..because it hits home..resonates with our souls. We all have need for LOVE...to be cared for..to have someone to go home to at nite...to have family with...to care for us when we are sick...and to grow old with us thru life. IF THAT MAKES SENSE..Do Not Quit. Write me and I will tell you...I am real..your need is real...and Don't Give Up...Your Love is Out There...whether me or not. God Bless.
My Dearest Dears: Greetings to each one of you. I am looking for my needle in the haystack...as are you. Our choice of Mate is the second most important decision in our lives. Our first is whether to give our hearts and lives over to the service of Jesus Christ and God Almighty. Only what is done for Christ will last. What will be important in 100 years from today? Our mental/physical/or spiritual condition? And what we do in this life will certainly impact what happens in the next. I want a partner/soulmate who wants to be loved and cherished as my princess in this life, yet love cherish..and in a team work fashion submit together to each other as we serve together in this life. Some of you who read this...will be repulsed. Others will say...my hunk of burning love man chunk..where have you been all my life??? )) So..just note..one very talented man, very educated man, very hard working man...who also has numerous blue collar working abilities, training abilities...and likes a nice home, nice cars...and needs a team player to work together at least 1/2 time to make this business of God GO...contact me. I do not need nice lovelys beautifully nakedly clad contacting me. Nice Eye Candy...but no clue on where they are going with this man. So..only serious lovely woman folk need apply. PS..I do not want more kids. Already got 3 and waiting for enjoying grandkids...OK? God Bless..and God Speed. -rdm
My Basic Thoughts About Relationships between 30-60 something thru a recent letter about compatibility.:I so wish it was possible to really date...like you hop on a lear jet...and fly over for a nice dinner, evening, and weekend in Omaha...fly to Denver...and go to the mountains for a week...and just talk..and cook and walk..and cuddle...build fires..and cuddle...and smooch...you get the idea...but you know and I know....people put their best foot forward in their courting...and then the real beasts come out of us...once we have tied the KNOT...and that is so rotten and bogus. I do not know that living together is right either...at least according to God's Word...and then..there is the human sexuality issue once we have been sex starved and divorced. Most of us could make love over and over and over till we were exhausted to consumate the relationship and make our sexual passions...well you know..and then there is the MORAL ISSUES of life..and death...and so...and cultural differences.....I guess what I am leading up to...is Are We Compatible with each other??????? Can we go the distances? WHo in their right mind stands at the altar...only to plan on getting divorced X amount of years down the road??? It is so sad. A53 percent divorce rate today to 60 percent is the range. Now that is NUTS. And for those who remarry second time...70 to 80 percent failure rate. If you are frustrated with that..then do the worlds way...and get FaDuck Buddy...and now committment...just make love...and call each other on speed dial to meet somewhere and make love. Now it makes sense on one side...of our lust of the flesh...but..morally in God's Sight...I know..and you probably know...its not right....so what are people to do?? I have to say from my own basic raising...judeo christian roots...we are to write letters...like in WW II...and then meet..and court...and date...and pop the question and put a ring of committment on her hand and marry...and make mad passionate love thereafter...5 to 8 times a day...and then once the honey moon is over...you are suppose to 3-4 times a week....and if you want to punish your lover...just do not be intimate...but once a year. Been there...done that...and that is sooooo painful to a man....sooo very painful...and dead wrong too. As long as the man is not abusing you...using your charms and passions as a reward system...is wrong. ..in my book..and in many other good christian counselors book. So...if you want to know more about what I think...well...just write me. God Bless You...and All of YOu. Take care...and write back.-rdm
Ideal match description:
My desire for A Lovely Warm Caring, Attractive to Me, and I attractive to her Mature, loving,caring...christian woman between 33 and 47 who desires a talented warm caring hard working successful well educated man. I am passionate, warm, and loving. I desire someone who is lovely both inside and out and makes the word, SWEETHEART come alive. If you are interested in pursuing a friendship/relationship, put in your message first words to me...I Love God First and am seeking my soulmate....... That will catch my attention. I have been on this site for far too long with little or no positive intervention action. My son is nearly 18 and its time to begin living again with my mate serving God, loving her, and moving on with both of our lives...possibly helping others find their dream mates and helping to make others dreams come true. God Bless. Sincerely, rdm
MUTUAL True Caring, mutual Respect, and HONESTY a MUST. I seek to meet your needs and in return...I am hopeful as my spouse..you would do likewise. I do have Diabetes Type II and suffer also with Depression. I want you to know that and know I take meds twice a day. If that bothers you, then move on. If you can relate, then...Welcome Dear.
Final Notes to Understanding whom I seek:I have been a dad since 1988..from finding out we were going to have our miracle child...to the point and horror of watching my wife completely change before my eyes in 1992...to having her tell me in July 20 of 1999...you can have the cars, the kids, the house...I JUST WANT OUT...and to divorce in May of 2001...and a very painful short 4 month relationship with another messed up christian woman...to a very lonely 10 years now..in terms of relationship with a woman...and just being dad as my youngest is to graduate from High School in the next 90 days. It has been one hell of a long painful ride...yet with a few good intermittent times together. But it is time for me to get on with my life...and I am looking for a girl much like you...a soulmate...a team player...a fellow female believer in Jesus Christ...and a person who wants to grow together...not grow apart...do what God has for us to do for HIM. That is what I am looking for. You know...I had a woman admit...we women will drive you men crazy...cause we are just little crazy our selves...and we change our minds..when we want to....and sweetems....I have experienced that...and that right there...will drive us men folk...CRAZY..as well. You are 38...you have made love...you are growing older...you are still pretty and youthful...and you sure have some sexappeal. I am now...15 years older than you...and I have been to hell and back...but Istill have some good years with the right woman. Sometimes....and I know you do not like to hear this...but I wish I could be the Old Testament...King David....with 5 wives and 8 concubines...now that is TOTAALLLYY Selfish..cause that is for breeding purposes...but when King David ran upon Bathsheeba bathing in the moonlite...it was That Second Look...that was his downfall. It lead to him looking at her...while she bathed...and any naked beautiful woman...will do bad things to a mans anatomy...but also his way of thinking...and he wanted her...Bathsheba...so he sent a person to find out all about her...and found out she was a married woman...and married to Uriah..in his army. So he put Uriah up at the front of the battle...and had all the other men pull back...and Uriah was killed. By this time ...David had sent for Bathsheeba...laid with her...and conceived a son....not nice for a man that at one time...was a man after God's own heart....and that whole mess over a woman....was Davids...the king davids...DEMISE. A woman in a mans life can be his happiest joy...or his greatest grief and sorrow. It is really what is truly in each others heart. Now if you do not know the story about David and Bathsheeba...get a good New International Version of the Bible..in a language you can understand and read...and read all about it. And then read Psalm 51. Nathan the Prophet gets called by God to confront him of his sinful acts...and he is given a story...and he tells that story to David. David reacts violently emotionally....and Nathan and God nail david to the wall...with....YOU ARE THAT MAN DAVID...and then David is griefstricken to realize what he has done...to Uriah who now is dead....to Bathsheeba...before his whole kingdom....and mostly how he disappointed his Lord and God.....and thus he weeps and writes Psalm 51. You see....I have been David to a degree in the past 20 some years...and I need a good woman to encourage me daily...be made love to as often as she can take it and want it in all fashions...who can sooth the beast within...can make me and her...look good...but better yet....BE GOOD. She can dress us with his and her outfits..and coats..etc...and she can cry on my shoulder...she cann allow me to massage her and cuddle her...and walk and talk with her about the issues of life that come up...and walk thru life thru..together. Do not lead...nor follow...but walk hand in hand...with me. And be my lover..my confidante, but most of all...be my friend. I just want to like being with you....all the time. Butt...that big But...we dont need to be together all the time...cause space is healthy to enjoy the being together...but then coming together is so sweet. And yes we will have disagreements...but attack the disagreement...not the person. Deal with the issue..and do not put the other down. I have had money...and I have lost money. I need just enough money to meet our needs...and a few of our wants. I want NO MEDDLING FAMILY MOTHER IN LAWS/OUTLAWS. I want us..and only us. I want a lady to grow old with that still makes me smile and go...grr...I love that woman. And one who is all attractive to me...and not every other man. I want our bed at home..with each other...and no adultery or wandering eyes. So my dear Miss Olya...if you really think you are still interested...you write me back. God bless
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