I love a good sense of humor and a positive self image someone comfortable enough with herself to relax and ponder if not enjoy lifes ironys without hostility or defensiveness.I appreciate manners and common decency I do not wish to stereotype anyone I have yet to find the person that enjoys being compared to a negative and judged by it I would request the same of you, You did not place the hardships in my life and I would rather not step on emotional landmines placed in your life by someone else ( I will however commiserate with you over coffee or wine I am quite capable of an honest friendship with or without a relationship )I am not controlling and hope by now you can control yourself ( The definition of control is negotiable lol ) I am attracted to what makes a person unique and believe that chemistry cannot be drummed up it just happens.I am not looking for perfection and I am..