I am from San Jose, CA. Born and raised. I am 29 years old, 5'8", 195lbs, dark hair, hazel eyes and have been told I have a warming smile and relaxing personality. What the last part means, I've yet to fully understand. But if I make you feel more relaxed and comfortable, then my mission is complete. I love to entertain people, usually at me own expense. But thats fine. Funny is what I can be, do and live.
I enjoy cooking, outdoors, camping, hiking, fishing, skiing, dirt biking, and to just simply get away with no plans but to hear nothing, I love movies and I am getting started on a filming degree from De Anza College. It's on hold due to the military, but that's OK. I signed the contract, knowing things might come up at a moments notice.
10 reasons that make me a good match.
10) I'm independent.
I have been most of my life and have always felt the need to get things done on my own, with asking for help. Maybe that's the LEO in me, or just plain stubbornness, but that's what I do. I find it easier to entertain myself when it's just me, or when I need to get something done. I enjoy my own company, but I also look for someone to share my time with. Even if it's just guy stuff. Sometimes, I have a craving to share my experiences with so I call a friend and ask them what they are doing. Life can be lived somewhat alone, but you should never be lonely.
I hate it when I'm in a relationship and I always have explain whatever it is I am talking about, Because they either have never seen, heard, done, read or dreamed about what I am saying. or they have no sense of imagination, experience or are just plain stupid. I have had a relationship like that. It just takes the energy and life right out of the relationship and you. All my friends, family, and my Army recruiter have said I am very smart, intelligent and can solve problems quickly with a flexible mind. I believe them, but sometimes the solution just comes to me and I don't know how or why.
Yes, I am very sexual. Guys usually are. But for me, it's not just "In at 3:45pm and done at 3:46. Leave and come back tomorrow without any build up." It's what can I do for you? How can I make you feel good? Both mentally and physically? I can talk about it, without expecting anything to happen. Sex could simply be the subject at hand and we could be talking about likes, dislikes, rants and raves, fantasies or what we just saw in a movie and how it was unrealistic or enticing to maybe do later at home or in a hot tub. I am very open to what may happen between us in bed, but also have certain rules in place, due to bad experiences, personal preference, or it's a "right time, right place" kinda thing.
7) I am attractive
Most women are always saying that I have a great smile, bedroom eyes, and eyelashes that they would kill for. They are also always saying I look good in a pair of tight jeans, so I wear them. When I think about being "attractive", I think about the attitude, not just the clothes your wearing or the cologne you sprayed on just before getting out of the car. It's all about how you carry yourself and how you interact with other people. Yes, looks play a part. But if you saw 2 guys walk into a room, one very easy on the eyes, but quiet. And the other was not as good looking, but very people person and talking to everyone at the bar and having a good time, which one would you chose. . ??
I have great respect for anyone willing to give it. I give some automatically,. But if you demand it and have been nothing but rude, inconsiderate or self centered, expect me to be blunt, tactless and not caring if I pissed you off or not. No one deserves anything, except common respect as a human being and the ability to live life happy. It's in the Declaration of Independence. I defend it, so you can have it. I will always respect someone personal space, as long as they respect mine. Because sometimes you just gotta be by yourself.
5) Women are women
To refer to the last sentence of number 6, people are people. Guys are guys and women are women. Each sex has it's own quirks to itself and someone from the other shouldn't try to hold it back. Guys just wanting to watch a movie about T/A, explosions, car chases, guns or martial arts will get it some way or another. Women who want to watch Sex and the City, go shopping without money, get their nails done, girls night out at a club to get hit on and laugh at the men trying, or to just sit with their girlfriends and talk about men will get it when they want that too. We all do things that are a part of nature to the sex we are. Sometimes they are the same, or the opposite of whats expected or outside the box.
4) Who wants a nag?
Seriously. If all you hear all day is, "Why are you dressed up and I'm watching tv? Clean your hair out of the sink! Leave the seat up on the toilet. Why won't you always be dressed sexy for me? No, you can't go and see a movie with your friends.", you will be packing your bags before I can even call a cab to go see an X-rated movie. I respect that somethings are just excepted in the home and compromise is going to be given both ways. I want a night out with the guys, you get a night out with the girls without asking for one.
3) The importance of friends and family
Without them, what do we have? Nothing. A friend could be considered family. I'm that way with my brother. We met at preschool at the age of 3. His family is now my family. I still have my own family, but they are a sort of "back up". If you know what I mean. Also, being close to family means that you understand the support it gives. My family and friends are completely supportive of my military service. They respect me for making the sacrifices that I have made, and continue to make. They also understand that if it weren't for the military, we would have a damned thing. So do most people that I know. Friends are very important, because sometimes you just need an outside opinion. Whatever it may be.
2) Love that knows no bounds
I have loved before, and have been hurt. But that does not mean that I will never love again. I long for the relationship that both people involved just love each other, completely. My grandpa died after 69 years of marriage to my grandma. It was their only marriage. That's what I want. When I have been in a relationship where there was love, I couldn't get enough of it. I just want to find someone to be with, and never have to think twice about what I am doing. To me, love is a warm blanket that I could wrap my significant other in and keep them from ever being cold again.
1) Making you want to be a better woman.
They way I treat you, they way I look at you, they way I smile at you and they way I love you will make you want to be a better woman. A faithful woman. A complete woman and a woman who will complete want to complete me. It sounds tacky, but that's the best way I can describe it. When a woman suddenly finds herself wanting to make life better for me, because of how I am loving her and caring for her, the days can only get better. I am in no way trying to trick a woman to doing things for me. I do things for them. Make life simpler, easier, more fulfilling and have a higher quality of life. To enjoy it together and each other.
Thank you for reading the whole thing, if you did. And if you got all the way to here, I think we have a good chance at a life of exploration, hope, enjoyment and care together.
Now, about how I look what I do.
*29 years old.
*dark hair, hazel eyes
* 4 years in the US Army (3 active duty at Ft. Stewart, GA - with a year deployment to Iraq in 2005) 1 year California National Guard (still there).
*4 years ice hockey. Ended champions. 6-2 last game. I got 2.