Greetings earthlings. My name is Morten, which is the Danish version of the German name, Martin.
I'm a generous heart. We come into this world with nothing and we leave with nothing but love. Everything else is just borrowed. Perhaps most good relationships start out as borrowed time, borrowed compassion, borrowed intimacy. And then love grows naturally from all the generosity that we can extend to each other if we get a chance to do so. What do you think?
Like so many others searching for a partner I feel lonely and I want to start a family. It doesn’t take a genius to see that very often it is a matter of the right timing when two people find each other and forms a lifelong bond of love and happiness. So it is really a matter of being ready for love to happen. Love is everywhere and nowhere at the same time. If we chase it then suddenly it is nowhere to be found. But when we are relaxed and open then love will find us and we don’t even have to search or chase after love.
I have made up my mind. I want to have children. I want to have love and intimacy in my life. And I want the love between my partner and me to grow deeper and stronger from the very beginning till the very end of our time together here on this Earth.
No matter where the destination of our journey is situated it will have to start somewhere. So now I’m looking for someone who is ready to start this journey together with me.
In my mind being ready means a number of things:
Emotional readiness: Preparing your heart and soul to fall in love with someone special and building up the courage to take all the necessary steps including saying “goodbye” to family members, friends and especially previous as well as other potential future partners.
Practical readiness: Having a passport and all other relevant travelling documents if your potential future partner is not your neighbor.
Physical readiness: Having all the relevant health tests, vaccines and infection tests done if you are interested in physical intimacy with another human being.
Economical readiness: Getting rid of debts and saving up some money to get a new life started with a family of your own.
Identity readiness: Reinventing yourself and your professional career so that you can include into your life, your personality, and your professional career a whole family with children as well as another human being with his/her own identity and professional career.
Contact readiness: Exchanging full contact information with a potential partner and preparing your heart and mind for the first meeting.
Communication readiness: Choosing an international language and learning that language to the extent that international communication is possible. Your native language doesn’t count here because we all have our own native language.
I’m sure that there is plenty of love for everyone who is truly ready for it. I’m also sure that the number of choices we have can be severely limited by how ready we are. I will have to say this: If you are not truly ready then please wait with your first letter to me until you are truly ready. I don’t mind taking big decisions in my life with very short notice. So the very first thing that I need to know about you is this: Are you truly ready (Emotional, - practical, - physical, - economical, - identity, - contact, and -communication readiness).
This service can only help us with the exchange of our contact information. The rest we will have to do on our own before we start to exchange more letters. I will suggest that you tell me in your first letter to me if you are ready to give me your full contact information.
I really don’t want to fall in love with someone who is not truly ready to take the next step. There will be plenty of time to exchange sweet and loving words at a later stage. However, life is short and there is really no time to fool around. After I have answered the first letter from a lady then it is no longer free of charge for me to open more letters. Therefore I will need a detailed answer to how ready you are before I write back.
More precisely it is these questions that I need you to answer for me:
Have you talked with your parents and your friends about spending the rest of your life in a foreign country?
Do you have an international passport?
Have you recently had a full health test with the result that you don’t have any serious diseases?
Do you have any money to help starting up a new life in a foreign country?
Are you ready for a life in a family with our small children and a husband with a demanding job?
Are you ready to give your full contact information to me (Naturally, I will write you a postcard/e-mail/SMS with my contact information as soon as I know where to send it to)?
What international languages do you know (English, Spanish, or Chinese)?
Once you are truly ready then the next issue will be how focused you are. A hunter who chases two rabbits will risk losing both. How many “rabbits” are you chasing at the moment? Try to picture yourself stranded on a remote island in the middle of the ocean. Who would you want there with you on that island? Don’t you agree that it makes no sense to chase after someone whom you would not prefer being stranded on a remote island together with? In my mind there is only a small step from reaching out for the most interesting person on this planet to wanting to be alone with that person.
I trust that I have a good understanding of the emotions of love, sex, and romance and how these emotions play together in order to obtain a higher harmony in a relationship. Are you ready for a love beyond your wildest dreams and imagination? I am of cause talking about the love between a child and its parents. I don’t believe that the love between two parents can be quite like that. But love between two adults can grow really deep and strong. I believe that the love between two parents will grow even deeper and stronger because of their love and affection for their mutual children and all the love that they get in return from the children.
I believe that we all need inspiration and love from the opposite sex. For some couples that brings forth excellence - and with excellence come more material resources. A good and healthy life is also essential to keep up spirits. As the U2 song goes: “We get to carry each other”. Then we are One.
Ideal match description:
It is not easy for me to say what will make me fall for a lady. It may come instantly or very shortly after the first meeting. But true love can only come gradually if it comes. True love requires that we see each other as the persons that we really are – and still decide that we truly like each other from the bottom of our hearts.
Some people will say that love and sex will only keep two people together for a short while. So if we want a marriage that will last for the rest of our time together on this Earth then we must look for someone whom we can admire and who will complement us on a very deep personal level.
I like theater because there is a clear separation of two very different creative processes: the script and the actual acting. This is also a very good model for using our imaginative powers in everyday life with a partner. If we are creative we can turn a fantasy into reality just by moving back and forth between making our own script and then acting it out with the people around us the best we can. We all have our own scripts anyhow even if we are not aware of it so when we interact as human beings we are in fact writing our own play together as a collective creative process.
Some people have a tendency to be melodramatic while others have a tendency to be romantic. What works best depends upon the situation and the people around us. It is much easier to create negative feelings than positive ones. Therefore you find the most positive feelings with some of the most ambitious and brilliant people. In fact: It only takes one brilliant idea to change the whole world!!!! There you have it.
I don’t know if it is possible to fall in love through correspondence. But I do know that the concept of a mail order bride has existed for many years. It also existed when there was no internet and travelling was very difficult and expensive compared to today.
I’m looking for a generous heart; someone who wants children, but is also intelligent enough to have a career or interesting hobbies on the side. – But also someone who will not allow my interest in her to perish. – Someone who also understands the emotions of love, sex, and romance and how these emotions play together in harmony.
I tend to enjoy the company of musical, artistic and open minded people over people not gifted in this way. I also enjoy beauty in both body and mind. Three qualities are very important for achieving a happy and fulfilling life together with a partner: Intelligence and charm along with integrity.
If you are able to travel, i.e. if you have an international passport and you are able to take a vacation from your job, then I suggest that you write this to me in your first letter. If you also write to me in your first letter that you want me to obtain your contact information so that we can one day meet then I might contact you after obtaining your contact information through the agency.
I cannot promise you that I will open more than your first letter to me if you don’t really know if you would like to meet me, or you are not truly ready for the next step - or if you are not focused. Please also be aware of the obstacles of communicating through a translator.
Perhaps the real challenge is to find someone who is ready and capable of entering into a fruitful relationship. Perhaps the real challenge is to find someone who is willing to take responsibility for their own feelings and do whatever is needed. Perhaps the real challenge is to find a useful platform for starting things up.
I don’t know when I will fall in love with a lady. Perhaps it is at first sight, perhaps a special letter or a special picture. Perhaps at the first touch, the first hug or the first kiss. Perhaps something more is needed. I believe that we should all try to find someone whom we would not mind being stranded on a remote island together with.
I want a stable relationship build upon mutual love and affection and I want no regrets about yesterday when I wake up in the morning. And I want this for both my partner and for myself. If I cannot have that now then I would rather be alone for a little while until I find what I’m searching for. Perhaps you share my views on these things?
There are probably no one who is good enough, who knows enough, or who loves enough to make such important decisions for you. Therefore you should be prepared to make all these important decisions yourself. Once you have made up your mind then you will also know how to be focused.
My languages skills:
Danish: I am advanced in every skill English: I am advanced in every skill German: I can read and write but can't speak yet